Be Bold And Heal The Wound Now!

Many of us had been molested one way or the other. I remembered mine at age of fourteen by a teacher. But mind you the experience can still be lingered in the memory till forty. So, we fail to face it and keep it as secret. Shame grows best in the dark; we’re only as sick as the secret we keep.

For me healing began when I could face it, forgive it, and deal with the shame I’d taken in a a result. Once I was able to do that, I could use it to help others.

In this article, I’ll share with you some lessons I learned that enabled me to close the door on my past, and move forward into the best days of my life. Here are four of them:

1. Refuse To Live Like A Victim!

When I decided to stop looking sympathy and start looking for solutions, I began to get well. Allah opens doors, but when He does we’ve got to walk through them and accept responsibility for our future.

2. Isolate The Problem.

Everybody is not the same. I had to learn not to let what one or two people me, infect every other relationship in my life. Once I was able to isolate the event, I could stop the enemy from using the past to rob me of the future.

3. Let “Perfect Love” Heal Your Scars.

I discovered that Allah’s love for me was the only love perfect enough to cast out all my fears. Fear of what? Fear of trusting others or myself! Fear of being known – and rejected! Only in the classroom of His (SWT) love could I be set free from these fears.

4. Be Patient With Allah (SWT).

Allah’s love and acceptance is the only prescription that can heal wound, because it heals mine. Jus be patient with the love and keep it. Don’t give it away unless you want to loose everlasting happiness and success. (Q3 : 200).

I promise you that if you constantly read the articles on these blog, two things will be yours:

1. You will learn how to forget your past;

2. You will become “fruitful” in every area of your life.

By for now.

Forget Your Ugly Past (Part 1)

MY PAST HUNTS ME! part 1

Oh! Allah, I don’t want to feel this way anymore. I thought if my pain touched their lives, I’d feel better. I didn’t. I thought that by holding it over their heads, I’d feel better. I didn’t. I thought that by telling everyone what had been done to me, I feel better. I didn’t. It only cost me friends and kept the pain alive longer. I thought if only they acknowledge how wrong they’ve been (and how right I’ve been), I’d feel better. They didn’t, so I felt worse.

I thought if only I could understand why I picked such people. I feel better. So I read books and talked with counselors, but that didn’t work, because I then discovered other things I didn’t have emotional energy to deal with. I thought time would make me feel better. It helped, but it didn’t heal, because there were still too many things that triggered old memories. I thought that by moving someplace else I’d feel better, I didn’t. I only changed addresses, not what was going on inside of me.

Finally I did two things and they worked; not overnight, but gradually, patiently, consistently as I kept doing them, they worked.

First, I decided to forgive- and keep on forgiving- until it didn’t hurt anymore.

“Have mercy on the people, Allah will have mercy on you” Hadith.

Second, I cried out to Allah, “Ya Rabbi anta-l-musarifa-l- quluub” (Oh Allah You are the controller of the heart)

He heard my cry! Suddenly my mind began to clear, and my emotions began to heal. Why? Because at last I’d reached the place where getting well meant more…. So much more to me…. than staying sick!

On this blog , I’ll share with you some lessons I learned that enabled me to close the door of my ugly past, and move forward into the best days of my life. Here are four of them:

1. Refuse to live like a victim! When I decided to stop looking for sympathy and start looking for solutions. I began to get well. Allah opens doors, but when He does, we have to walk through them and accept responsibility for our future.
2. Isolate the problem. Everybody is not the same. I had to learn what one or two people did to me, infect every other relationship in my life. Once I was able to isolate the event, I could stop the enemy (shaitan and his agents) from using the past to rub me of the future.
3. Let ‘perfect love’ heal your scars. I discovered that Allah’s love for me was the only love perfect enough to cast out all my fears.(Q3:31, Q2:38). Fear of what? Fear of trusting others or myself! Only in the classroom of His love could I be free from satanic shackles called fear.
4. Don’t stop with Allah! The love of Allah and acceptance was the prescription that healed me.- so that I could help make others whole too. You can only keep it, if you give it away. Listen: I put up this blog majorly for two things: (a) to help you forget your ugly past and (b) to go on with your life and be fruitful in all areas of your life.

Therefore, Dear friend! Do not brood over the past and its tragedies, it will only make you sick and weird down. Reading too much into the past is a waste of the present. When Allah mentioned the affairs of the previous nations, He (SWT) said: (That was a nation who has passed away) Q2:134. Also, in your life, those are time that has gone. Do not allow it to hunt you, turn to Allah and let Him heal your wound.

Allah is great.

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